Thanksgiving: Grateful and Authentic

In Jewish tradition, gratitude is not merely a fleeting emotion or occasional practice but an integral part of daily life. Rooted in blessings and rituals, the practice of giving thanks has sustained individuals and communities through both joy and hardship for over 2,000 years. As we approach Thanksgiving, a day that naturally lends itself to reflection and gratitude, it’s worth exploring how this timeless Jewish practice can serve as a powerful method for perseverance.

In stressful times and gratitude can feel elusive, but it remains a tool for resilience, even when life feels overwhelming.

When you gather for Thanksgiving  be authentic and caring. Be sensitive to the fragility and vulnerability of both yourself and others when asking: “For what are we thankful?”

Please take special care when gratitude is not easy to express and try to articulate the complexity of what is true for you. You may say: I am grateful for, list the things you are grateful for, and also acknowledge other feelings; I feel sad, or I notice I feel fear and anger, or I am aware of feeling grief, or I wish things were different, or I feel the pain of many who are suffering in the world, and/or I mourn injustice etc.

Gratitude doesn’t erase pain, other feelings or challenges, but it can offer a small and important respite and inspiration. The daily Modeh/ah Ani prayer “I give my thanks to you dear one for all I have in the world. Awakening my soul each day. With mercy and love you trust us.” is recited at the start of each day. It reminds us to focus on life’s gifts, even when the world feels heavy.

Modern research echoes the efficacy of these ancient practices. Studies show that cultivating gratitude can lower stress, improve mental health, and build resilience. Writing down moments of thankfulness has been shown to help reframe the brain’s focus, helping individuals find strength, even during difficult times.

Try a Writing Exercise for Gratitude

Incorporating a simple writing practice can make gratitude more tangible and accessible, even when it feels hard to find. Here’s how:

1. Set Aside Time: Dedicate a quiet moment each day to reflect, whether in the morning or before bed.
2. Write Three Things: List three things for which you’re thankful. They can be as small as a moment of quiet or as significant as a supportive conversation.
3. Expand on One: Choose one item from your list and write a few sentences about why it matters to you. How does it connect you to hope or stability?

On Thanksgiving Day add a Jewish Spice

• Start your meal with a kiddush (blessing over wine) to sanctify the gathering.
• Lift the bread and recite the Hamotzi (blessing over bread) as a communal act of thanks.
• Encourage each person to share something they are thankful for during the meal, creating a space for connection and reflection.
• End the meal with Birkat Hamazon (grace after meal) or another expression of thanks, recognizing the abundance you’ve shared.
• You may also want to include other songs of gratitude like Tov Le’hodot – It is Good to Give Thanks.

This Thanksgiving you may want to resolve to embrace gratitude not just as a holiday ritual, but as a daily practice.

In the complexities of life may we find strength, stability, support and comfort in the practice of gratitude.

I wish you and yours a joyful and meaningful Thanksgiving.

Happy Thanksgiving.

Blessings and love, Rabbi Sigal